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10 Ways To Show ‘Em Who’s The Boss



What do people with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) get from doing positive thinking?


People with ADD have negative thinking patterns because challenges frustrate them and they are prone to feel overwhelmed. This negative outlook makes it harder for them to move forward. They lose control over themselves.


People with ADD who practice positive thinking are able to focus on their strengths and accomplishments. This focus increases their level of happiness and motivation. This development, in turn, allows them to spend more time making progress and less time feeling down and stuck.


Ordinary people like you can benefit from the following practical suggestions. These will help you take control over your self and shift into thinking patterns that are more positive and beneficial:


1) Take Good Care Of Yourself

It is easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.


2) Detach From Negative Thoughts

Your thoughts cannot hold any power over you if you do not think about them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it and refrain from thinking about it.


3) Remind Yourself Of the Things You Are Grateful For

Stress and challenges do not appear as bad as you think they are. Just take 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things in your life. Believe me this will make a huge difference!


4) Practice Lovin', Touchin', And Squeezin' Within Your Immediate Family

You do not have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant mood booster.


One research study on this subject had a server touch the arm of some of her customers as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she did not touch!


5) Look For The Proof Instead Of Making Assumptions

Fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads you to second-guess what the others are thinking. If you fear that you did something that caused a friend’s bad mood or you think your co-workers are secretly gossiping behind your back, speak up and ask them. Be worried only when you have actual basis.


6) Refrain From Using Absolutes

Have you ever told a partner, "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend, "You NEVER call me"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is. This programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.


7) Squash The "ANTs"

In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are reactionary bad thoughts like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me!" or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and feel free to squash them!


8) Increase Your Social Activity

By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy and happy people. Their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!


9) Volunteer For An Organization Or Help Another Person

Everyone feels good after helping someone. You can volunteer your time, money, or resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.


10. Stop Yourself From Doing Ruminations

If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination results to intense focus on something negative. It is never productive to do so because it is solution-oriented.


Rumination is another word for excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on the radio for some music.


There you have it, ten practical tips to be more in control of your thoughts, feelings, and reactions. These tips aim to increase the flow of more positive thoughts in order to discourage unhealthy ruminations.


Try them out. Practice doing these tips and show ‘em who is in complete control and who is the real Boss!