Moving to a Better Place
Packing up and moving to a new house in an entirely new place is a source of stress not only for you, but also for your children. Infants and toddlers may not be able to understand the move, but teenagers become concerned with trying to fit in and starting all over again with a new set of friends and new surroundings.
As a parent, you need to follow these simple rules in order for you to break it gently to your children.
First of all, it’s always best if you schedule the move at a time when it will be less stressful for anyone. Moving to a new house at a stressful time—for example, when a family member has just passed away—guarantees that there will be no good vibes during the whole process and it will only mean headaches for everyone involved. It’s also not a good idea to make the move in the middle of the school year. Not only will it be emotionally bad for the children, it will also mean that they have to readjust to a whole new environment just when they’re getting into the swing of things in their current school.
Break the news gently to your children. Make sure you tell him why you are moving to a new place, and tell him what he can expect from this. Expect that your child will ask you some questions about the move, and be prepared to answer them honestly. As much as possible, make sure that he is comfortable with the move. It’s a good idea if you take your child to see the new place where you will be moving so he can see how nice it is; this will help quiet his nerves about the move.
Allow your children to spend time with their friends. They’re going to want to say goodbye, naturally. Make sure that you allow them to stay in touch with their friends as well. It’s always a good idea for your children to have a wide circle of friends.
Remember to make your children feel important by allowing them to have a say in any decisions to be made regarding the house. This way, they will feel that it’s not just your house and they’re just tagging along, but they will also learn how to care about it. It’s definitely a good idea to let them become decision makers during the move, since it will greatly affect them.
Moving to a new house can be stressful, but with these tips, you can help the transition become easier for your children. As a result, you will also be able to avoid the stress of being resented by your kids for pulling them out of the environment to which they are accustomed.