How to Raise Your Personality Quotient
Your intelligence is measured by an IQ (intelligence quotient) test. However, do you know that there is also a personality quotient? How do you rate in this respect? Both quotients, it is said, determine the chance of being a success or a failure in life. How can you improve your PQ? The following are good suggestions:
How to Be a Good Conversationalist
You can become a good conversationalist by having something to say at the right place and at the right time, and knowing how to say it. You might say, “I simply have nothing to say to people I don’t know very well. I’m shy. When I see people looking at me, I get embarrassed.”
To be a good conversationalist, follow these simple rules:
Read much. Many people cannot converse for lack of ideas. They know they are not up-to-date with the latest trends, and this gives them a feeling of insecurity and self-consciousness. Where do people get ideas? From books, magazines, the internet, and newspapers. Be informed of the issues of the day. Formulate your own opinions.
Learn to listen. Listen to what others have to say. This is another way to become well informed. It seems paradoxical; but to be a good conversationalist, you must be a good listener. Most people want to talk; it is simply their matter of getting the conversation started. Once they start talking, you can relax and listen sympathetically, with understanding and warm receptiveness to what they are saying. If you can do this, you can be known as a good conversationalist.
Learn to utilize conversational gambits. When you meet persons whom you don’t know and with whom you have very little in common, utilize conversational gambits. These are: the weather, sports, movies, books, movie personalities, school activities, school subjects, etc.
Watch your speech. Speak in a normal voice; don’t whisper. Speak clearly and distinctly; don’t mumble. Develop a pleasant, agreeable voice. Have you noticed the difference between the voice of your older sister when she snaps at you and when she talks to her friend? Talk with other people as enthusiastically as you talk with your closest friends.