Five Basic Steps to Being a Patient Parent
One of the most difficult things to master is to develop patience in parenting. Patience seems elusive to haggard parents who need to chase after restless energizer-bunny toddlers while arguing with rebellious teens.
But as problems always have solutions, so do your parenting woes. Patience need not be a quest for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. These tips just might help you improve your relationships with your children.
Communicate effectively with your children. A lack of communication with your child is a hindrance to establishing a good relationship with him/her. Talk to your kids in ways they can understand. Bantering with them means a lot, and you would be able to get to know them better when you talk about your day with them and vice versa.
Match pace with your kids. Slow down with how you go about things in order to keep pace with your kids. Find time to spend with them. Kick back and enjoy the sunset with them. Take them to a beach and spend a lazy afternoon playing with sand and collecting seashells with them. You'll find that it's time well spent.
Avoid losing your temper. Keeping your cool means not letting anger get the better of you. Catch yourself if you are about to burst and consider the consequences of your actions and words. Wait for the time when you have calmed down to tell your child what he/she did wrong.
Be realistic with your expectations. Sometimes, our expectations of our children tend to be unrealistic. Do not insist on imposing your expectations on your kids as this will decrease their self-confidence and may push them to develop an inferiority complex.
Let them realize the consequences of their actions. If a child persists on doing things that violate the rules you set, explain to him/her the consequences of the actions in question and give him/her some time to reflect on what you taught. Letting your child realize the consequences of his or her actions leads to a genuine understanding of the rules. This in turn leads to better obedience. Firmness in setting boundaries is important, but the extreme of being authoritarian in your discipline style would lead to rebellion. The child has to understand why he/she has to do the things you want him/her to do. Requiring blind obedience creates a feeling of oppression, which is precisely what would lead to rebellion, because the feeling of oppression creates the desire for emancipation.
Bear in mind that the manner with which you express your feelings and anger to your children trains them to manage their own feelings and relationships. Patience is a virtue that you must learn how to develop as a parent. By following these tips you will be able to help children learn essential emotional and relational skills.