Finding True Happiness
How does one find true happiness? That’s the question most people would like answered. It seems a simple question, and yet for some people, it seems farfetched and impossible to find true happiness.
But is it?
Actually, it’s easier than anyone would think. There are two reasons why people find it impossible to find true happiness. First is that they tend to look at the general overview of things rather than the smallest details. Instead of looking at life day by day, they imagine the whole picture and reach for the stars tomorrow. This is not bad. Actually this is quite good, but planning for tomorrow and then unexpectedly not getting what you desire brings you the opposite. You get stressed out, tired and worn out. Why don’t you focus on the simple things today first before lounging on the big picture?
Think of the job you have at the moment, not about the job that you will get tomorrow. Think about the money that you have in your bank account right now, no matter how many or how little, not about the money that you will get in the near future. Think about your children right now and how they’re growing up to be like you, not about the children that will get married and leave you eventually.
With these little things, they make you all the more happy, joyful and not tired or stressed out.
The second reason is that most people think about their problems and not their blessings. They look at a glass half-empty rather than looking at it half-full. This is actually inter-connected with the first reason. Instead of looking at what you don’t have, why not try looking at what you do have? If you don’t have a car, why don’t you ask yourself what benefit would that bring you? You would save on gas and money. If you still have food to eat everyday, it means you still have money left to get you through the day.
"Happy people are far more focused on the little victories and miracles than the problems," says Dan Baker, Ph.D., medical psychologist at Canyon Ranch Health Resort in Tucson, Ariz., and author of What Happy People Know (Rodale, 2003). Instead of getting caught up in fear and worry, they see the good possibilities in each situation. They have confidence in their ability to cope, and they live with a sense of purpose.
Remember that happiness is not a destiny. It’s a choice.