Enhance Emotional Quotient in Kids

Enhance Emotional Quotient in Kids



As parents, we sometimes feel cursed by the bratty behavior kids are wont to display on cue. We often shrug them off as a “phase thing,” something we hope will go away by the time they grow older. In doing so, we neglect helping our kids grow emotionally, which in turn may cause them to be emotionally handicapped for the rest of their lives.


Your child will develop their emotional faculties sufficiently by the age of 8. If you are unable to train your children and expose them to a loving, functional environment, it may be too late already. By the time the child reaches this age, his or her temperament is pretty permanent.


The Marshmallow Test


Researchers conducted a test of emotional intelligence among children. The test involved promising the children an extra marshmallow if they were able to keep from touching a marshmallow placed in front of them for 30 minutes.


The test suggests that children that are able to wait out the 30 minutes to get their extra marshmallow have a greater probability for success in life as opposed to those that weren’t able to do so. Emotional intelligence, therefore, is right alongside Mental and Physical intelligence as markers for success.


If you want to give your children a head start in this life, they you should not neglect nurturing their emotional aspect as well as their other facets. Here are a few tips to help you teach your kids the virtues of patience, even temper, and self-control.


  • Teach your Kids Responsibility – If your kids want a pet, it might be a great opportunity to teach them responsibility. Caring for a pet can help one learn accountability for their actions and things around them. Aside from that, kids will learn to dilute the “me first” complex that children are naturally born with.


  • Be Firm, yet Gentle – Do not allow yourselves to be manipulated by children. Make it a habit to lay down reasonable laws and keep with them firmly. Be gentle, yet reasonable. From here, children will learn order, organization and respect.


  • Love in the Family – A child that grows up in an environment of love will have a greater chance of developing an even temperament, and a naturally social nature. The parents have a responsibility not only to love the children – but to love each other as well.


Studies have shown that parents that show love for each other have children that are better adjusted. The children learn more from their models’ action than from their words. Kids from families like such do not rush out of their homes by the time they are 18. They also keep close ties with parents even after they leave their homes.


  • Positive Reinforcement – You can use the reward system to help reinforce good habits among your children. Being rewarded for good things done will help your child understand that doing the right things are more desirable than the opposite.


However, you should not let your child come up with the notion that they are only loved because they do the right things. They will develop the wrong mentality that love is something you have to work for. Show them your unconditional love and spur them on to greater things.




Your children are an investment into the future. You do not really need much prodding to understand that no matter the sacrifices, rearing a happy family is always worth the pains. Do not indulge yourself in the thought that by merely giving your kids a roof over their heads will help them grow into mature individuals.


Invest in their lives, and in their emotional quotient. As a parent, that is the best way to go.