How to Create a Mood Conducive to Camaraderie
How would you feel if you’re in a room filled with rock music; but all you want is soft classical music, or peace and quiet to soothe your mind and body after a hard day’s work? The tendency is to get out of the room. If you’re in the mood for rock music, then you’ll stay on feeling the beat the way you like it.
When you’re in a neutral mood, you will assume the mood of the situation. For example, if you join a group who is singing, chances are you’ll sing along. If you see a magician doing his tricks, you will feel enchanted with magic. Which is why, it is important that when you have the upper hand in bringing a situation or occasion to a certain mood, it must be conducive to camaraderie where unity, friendship, and harmony pervade.
Just what does it takes to create this mood? Smile! This naturally spontaneous reaction when you greet someone is always part of good fellowship. A smile often accompanies a handshake, a hug, or a high five when you greet your friends or first time acquaintances. A smile is like a preface of a book, the way to get a conversation started. It costs nothing, yet it has all the attributes of companionship.
Call a person by name. The person you call begins to hear music even though there is none. The sound of a person’s name is the sweetest sound to his ear. When you call a person by name, you make him feel important. You boost his morale and make him feel taller than he actually is. Some people say, “Oh, I don’t like my name. Given the chance, I would change it.” However, call out their names and they will forget that they dislike it. The difference in perception can really be amazing.
Just what is it in a person’s name that makes it the most important name or word in his vocabulary, especially when somebody else calls it out? One reason is that people are naturally self-centered. They want attention, appreciation, approval, and recognition. Calling out a person’s name means that you acknowledge his presence.
Show interest in the people around you. Make them feel important. Do it with all sincerity. Listen intently to what they have to say. When you do these acts, you can be sure they will reciprocate them. It just takes somebody to initiate these acts, and that somebody is you. Doesn’t it feel good to start an act of good fellowship? Definitely, it does. When you do this, people will have a perception of a friendlier you.
Have you ever been in a debate, where the mood of the debaters is argumentative? Was there ever a winner? Nobody accepts defeat in a debate. Nobody concedes. There is no definite or clear winner. If there are no time limits in a debate, the argument could go on endlessly. Because there is an issue being debated upon, the mood becomes conducive to opposing reasons, which makes good fellowship remote.
Just how do you turn an argument based on criticizing each side into an atmosphere of camaraderie? Both parties must give in. As mentioned earlier, nobody accepts defeat in debates. When both parties give in, nobody wins, but nobody loses either. The way to give in is by emphasizing criticism in a constructive manner. When criticism turns constructive, camaraderie sets in.
You can create an argumentative mood or a mood conducive to camaraderie. Choosing the latter is the way to go.