Coping with Rejection
Do you a hard time dealing with frustrations? Having thoughts of holding back because you are afraid of being let down? What is rejection? How do you deal with it?
There are many ways rejection can manifest itself. It occurs when a person is intentionally left out from a relationship or an interaction. It can also happen through intimidation, teasing, scorning, or by ignoring and silence. A person who has been rejected, because of the disappointment, becomes prone to a number of psychological stresses, such as loneliness, diminished self-esteem and self-worth, violence, and depression.
Rejection can be very painful, especially since it is human nature to want to be accepted and be part of a group. An individual’s need for love and acceptance is a basic human drive that is necessary to keep a healthy state of mind. A group is vital for social identity and self-concept. Rejection will eventually result in social isolation.
There are several ways by which you can cope with rejection. But before learning how, you must first know how to handle the fear of being rejected. This is characterized by the illogical fear that others won’t accept you for who you are, what you believe in, and how you act. It is what makes you powerless to do or say anything because you are concerned you might face disapproval. It is displayed by the lack of self-assurance and self-confidence, the refusal to speak up, even the lack of the ability to function indifferently.
In dealing with the fear of rejection, begin with the identification of people who can possibly ignore and reject you; then identify the type of behavior that you would expectedly display in front of those people who tend to do so. Once you have pointed these out to yourself, try to deal with the behavioral patterns and develop a healthy and rational alternative response.
For instance, if you are to ask for a raise from a very stern boss, first think about the timing of your request, then the manner by which you are to make it, and the grounds that would validate what you are asking for. In short, plan ahead. By doing so, you can also plan on the kind of reaction you will give. Sometimes, expecting the worst can help.
Keep in mind that every refusal you receive will bring you closer to an opportunity. Keep an optimistic state of mind. Remember that each refusal teaches you something that will be making the ride less tough in your next attempts.
Make sure that you analyze the situation in a quick yet precise manner. If it doesn’t work this time, charge it to experience. Don’t let it be a reason not to move forward. Connect with people whom you highly value, conquer your fears one at a time, and do something that will make you look and feel great. Each time you get rejected, get back on your feet and start again. Everything’s always worth a second, third, fourth try.
Focus on your own thoughts and generate feelings that will eventually craft your own pleasure and contentment. Take care of yourself. Love and accept who you are. Love yourself in spite of the flaws and accept those as a part of you. Nobody’s perfect in this world; even those who had rejected you had their share of rejections, as well. Indeed, rejection and failure are a natural part of human existence. The difference between a winner and a loser is the response.