Building a Strong Connection with Your Teenager
When a youngster is in his childhood phase, he is as sweet and loving as the baby you brought home from the hospital. But when he grows up, he makes new friends, discovers new hangout places, or even tries out new experiences. Eventually, you will find that you’re facing a whole new set of problems, and that you’re finding it difficult to deal with your child.
At this point in time, your relationship with your child appears to be growing weaker because your child is now part of a different world, different from what he was exposed to. But as a loving parent, you can do something about it – for you and your child. It is here where you need to start building a connection so the loving bond would still be intact.
As a parent, you need to fix the relationship first. If your child does something unpleasant or unacceptable to you, talk to your child and explain to him that his behavior will not be tolerated. Now if he is still stubborn and doesn’t listen to you, you can consider having a word with one of his close friends and tell him what you feel about your child. He might listen to his friend’s advice.
As a parent, you need to learn to compromise. If your teenage son suddenly takes off with the car without your permission, you’ll automatically assume the worst: illegal driving, underage driving, drunk driving, or worse, accidents. To ease your worries and to give your child a shot at being the one behind the wheel, sign him up for driving school. That way, he can have what he wants and you can have peaceful thoughts. At the same time, talk to your child about the dangers of driving, give him straightforward advice on the perils of drunk driving, and tell him how he can keep the car in great shape whenever he uses it.
As a parent, you need to find your place. Don’t be too engrossed in whatever your teenager’s activities are. Try to find the best place to get to know him and to listen to his needs. Don’t push yourself to the limit by interfering with his activities. As much as possible, always try to be there whenever an important event for your child comes up.
As a parent, you should also keep up with your family rituals. Family rituals can just be something as simple as eating meals together, going on vacation, and setting aside a special day in a week when you all go out together to have fun. Once your child enters his teenage years, these cherished family moments shouldn’t just disappear. This is the time in your child’s life when it’s more important than ever to keep your bond intact.