Believe You Deserve Only the Best
After you have decided what you want, visualized it, and believed it can happen, the next step is receiving it – fully and wholeheartedly.
This step may sound simple at first (and to some, it may be really simple), but in reality, people sometimes have a hard time receiving what they want. Why? Because they feel they don’t deserve it.
Feeling undeserving of good things usually stems from a lack of self-esteem which may be traced back to childhood. Dysfunctional families, lack of support from teachers or guardians and lack of acceptance from peers are common culprits of poor self-esteem.
The danger of such negative childhood experiences is that children may carry their trauma up to their adult life. The trauma may have a destructive impact on their thought patterns and relationships, among others. Because of feelings of low self-worth brought about by the trauma, they may consciously or unconsciously believe that they do not deserve the good things that can come to them.
So if you honestly cannot see yourself living with the best in life, you need to really ask yourself – why do I feel I do not deserve this thing I want? If your answer is along the lines of “I’m not worthy enough” or “These things simply cannot happen to people like me,” then you may have to review your self-image.
The good news is, even years of destructive thought patterns can be reversed through positive thinking and daily affirmations. After you identify your habitual negative thoughts about yourself, you can replace them with positive ones. And while negative thoughts may still enter your mind from time to time, it may encourage you to know that a positive thought is far more powerful than a negative one.
You can begin by daily affirmations like “I am a unique, wonderful human being,” “I deserve the best in life,” or whatever you feel will make you appreciate yourself more.
It may also be helpful to do these affirmations in the second person. Since we hear the hurtful, destructive words from other people, affirming from a second-person point of view can be empowering. For example, you can say “I love you for who you are. You do not need to prove yourself to anyone. You are already special as you are right now.”
An exercise which may also help is imagining a person close to you talking to you and telling you about what he/she likes about you. You can also assume the point of view of this other person, and look at yourself through his/her eyes.
Do your affirmations and meditations daily and watch your life change. By loving and appreciating yourself for who you are, you will open yourself to all the best life has to offer.