Are You A Lost Traveler Or An Accidental Tourist Of Life?
Life is like a road.
There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; and crooked and straight paths. Some roads lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. Some roads lead to fame and fortune. A wrong turn can lead to isolation and poverty. Crossroads can lead to happiness or sadness, victory or disappointment.
Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where to go, which road will you take? What guarantees do you have that will allow you to choose the right one? Would you choose or just stay where you are -- in front of a crossroad?
There are no guarantees.
This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. You will never know where a road will lead you until you take it. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness.
Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. There are too many possible outcomes, which are beyond your control. However, you still have control over decisions that you will make and your reactions to different situations.
Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.
Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it?
Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.
Take the risk: Make a decision.
Since life does not offer any guarantees and you would never know if your decision is wrong until you made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide.
It is definitely better than staying at the crossroads. While it is true that a wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be an opportunity for an adventure or could lead to more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. Make wise decisions. Taking risks is not about being careless and throwing caution to the wind.
Here are some tips that could help you choose the best option in the face of life’s crossroads:
1) Get as many information as you can about the situation.
You will not have the confidence to make a decision when you are armed with limited information.
Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the questions to ask to know more about the situation.
2) Identify and create options.
What are your options in a given situation? What do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the chance to create your own option.
Let your creative mind work. Entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end.
3) Weigh the pros and cons of every option.
Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages. This way, you get more insights about the consequences of each option.
4) Trust yourself and make a decision.
Now that you have assessed your options, it is time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. Decide and believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.
Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences. It may take you to a place of promise or land of problems. Nevertheless, the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life.
Whether you made the right or wrong decision, only time can tell. Whatever the outcome, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.
Keep this thought in mind: You always have a choice between being a lost traveler or an accidental tourist of life.